Are you going over in your head about a mistake you have made? Is it driving you crazy and you cannot believe that you, did it? This can happen when we lose faith in ourselves, or we do not actually know what we want and so we just make any choice now. It is ok to think after that you have made a mistake. It is always ok if you are making mistakes unless you keep making the same mistakes. When you are making the same mistakes, it can mean that you are just not understanding what it is you need to be doing. Usually when I make a mistake I try to figure out where exactly it might have happened if I can. Then I decide my role in it and then I try again with a different approach noting what I did and went wrong the first time. I can think about my thoughts and understand them, but can I understand cars? No, I cannot. Some people can understand cars but do not understand themselves. We think that we are all the same and can fit in one box but in some ways we will always be different. It is the differences that are important. The things we can share with the world. How did you know you were different? The main way you can know that you are different are the interactions. You can figure it out by the way you treat others, and they treat your back. If you feel like you are doing nothing wrong, but something feels not like it should be it could be that you are not compatible or that something is not right. When things have felt not right between me and another, I felt that you could feel a certain tenseness in the air. It was unspoken but universally recognized, like the presence of chalk in a classroom. You may not directly talk about the chalk, but you know its there. My body has saved me many times and I did not even realize it until later. Never fight fire with fire with someone. When they are angry, you want to take a step back not encourage more flames. The tough interactions were the worst where you want to be anywhere but where you are now. Becoming an adult does not necessarily mean that all problems will be solved. We learn to try to exist in our own peaceful ways. Remember if everyone you meet you feel does align with you that is ok, and you can stick to your truth. Nobody can say you are doing things wrong because they do not know any better themselves. I have seen life work like this, and it is not helpful: Let us say for example someone has been divorced seven times. They get mad at you for not asking them about what to expect when getting married. You did not mean to hurt them by not asking them this. However, you also did not want their advice because of their experience. Everyone loses and it becomes a messy social situation.