The good news is you could have many more relationships with people in the future. The shocking news is the only reason they may be in your life is to give you a tough time. They could just hate you for who you are. But why me? Because they noticed you had something that they want, and they do not have. But I did not do anything to them? That does not matter if something about you mentions fear, anger, pain from their lives you could be in for some trouble. Some people may want to see if you will do something illegal for them. They want to see how far you will go in tolerating their behaviour. Others you may have a relationship where you build up trust, respect, and learn that a relationship is a 2-way street where everyone must participate. You must be careful because there are people that have friends, but they turn out to be not particularly good. The best way to tell which kind of person you are getting is by spending time with them and listening to yourself about how you feel when they are around. We all tend to have this alarm system, so you can listen to that. If you disregard that then you are playing with fire. Our bodies will make sure to alert us when they feel threatened by the things around us. Some of threats we can disregard but others are important, and we should listen to them. The thing about relationships is you could spend time together with someone all the time and still have a toxic time. Why would we stay together if it is toxic? Because we may feel that toxic is what we deserve. It could be that toxic is all that we know, so it feels safe to us. You will know when you feel valued because you will be smiling more. You will be having more positive thoughts and looking forward to things. The tough part can be when sad things happen to us, and we bring that to the relationship. If we are feeling stressed, then it can be natural to share that stress with others. Loving yourself means being alone if you do not feel respected. It means making the hard choices sometimes to do the right thing for you. When you disregard others’ expectations of you, they may start to resent you because they do not understand you or what you are doing. We have never been closer than ever with all the social media programs, but it feels in way are far apart. The thing we can do is make sure stay focused on what is important to us and what drives us. When you get to help someone and see it is making a difference for them you will feel good, and you have a chance to continue that feeling into a chain for the next group of people. It is hard at times not to take things too seriously, but it is a good thought process to have. When you do not take things seriously you would appear more relaxed, fun, and approachable.