It is nice when you can feel confident and good about certain things. Just plan of what you want to do and slowly start to check the items off. You can learn to cook something new that you always wanted to try. This would be fun because you are taking care of yourself, learning something new, enjoying something simple. That is all it can take to have an enjoyable experience and start the balance of good things for you. You could go to a concert or sporting event you are excited about. Make it a treat for your hard work and everything you do for your loved ones and then have the valuable experience you want. You just must know what you want, figure out the right way for you to get it, enjoy the reward. How do we figure out the right way to get it? By taking the best approaches for us and seeing how we do. It is like how we make decisions and go about our lives. I like a plan and others may be spontaneous. If you are someone that is spontaneous when the idea comes on and you get excited just go in and do it. Your best way could be just doing something and seeing the result of it. No plans needed just energy and go. How do we know we are making a difference? When we look at ourselves and feel appreciation and not the self-loathing that can happen. For me it was instinct to come out with that, but the appreciation is the winner. Love is the winner, so follow it. Be careful of the people that want to use your time or use you for what you can do for them. Remain in the space that people can be there to help, but they can do harm. If you want to let them, use you then you can always try that. I do not recommend it, because when you have felt used up, you will end up alone. I have tried now to remain calm and stay unaffected and then move on to what I need to do. Uncomfortable situations are always going to happen, and you can only do so much to prepare. I mean how can you prepare for something that you are not exactly expecting? Ride the wave like the surfer would do and then take a time out if you need to. Timeouts in life can help heal you. I know many people do not get them, but to those that do it is important. If I am a cook and want more money, I could work my way up and then eventually try to open my own restaurant with the food I would want to serve. You would be building your experience, interacting with valuable connections, build your money and assets up. This is smart and practical and if someone had the energy and enthusiasm to want this, I would support them. There can be billions of these people and stories out there waiting for their turn to shine. I still believe you can make it shine, but it can take effort.