Would you rather be around a lot of people or around a few people? Would you be outgoing and have charisma that drew people in, or would you sit in your shell wondering when the party would end? For me I am the one that was always quiet not being the person to make the first move. I would sit and wonder what would happen but would not do the action at parties. I let the fear take over and you learn from it. If the fear shows up and ruins a chance, then you will know for the next time. There is nothing wrong with being quiet either. What would be wrong to me would be opening about everything and then wondering why I felt lost and used by someone else. It happens to people and when it happens, they might remember for awhile. For me feeling used is something that can be a trigger and from which I am healing. There is nothing wrong with feeling used because everyone could face that at some point. The issue becomes if it is a pattern and you need to find a way to be able to solve it. Setting boundaries is always a good start. I think if you do not like something being able to talk about it and being able to set good boundaries can be necessary. It can be tough if it is a family member or friend. It will not be so tough if it was an acquittance. The only thing you can do when you feel like things are not working is you must walk away. It never means anybody did not mean anything to one another, but it means that the relationship is no longer fresh, fun, good for the soul. When we are not getting that fun feeling from people then we will be alone until we are able to find someone that gives us that exciting feeling. That feeling is important, because it includes safety, trust, sense of humor, etc. Being alone builds strength and being around people you trust helps bring safety. Both things that if you ask people that would agree are important to have. The tough times are always when we have to say goodbye. This chapter in our lives is over and its time to move to another one. We can have hope that we made an impact or that we will end up remembered but we must always understand that this is for the best and going your own way can be for the best. It was tough when you want to follow your friends or follow others and think that would be great. Let us move to this city or this and that, but it may never feel right. You must be the one that stops everything leaves and goes out to find what that something is for yourself. I would hope that nobody would hurt others, because the pain we can face can take us down a notch. Staying within what you can control and trying to do better each day is what it is about. If others try to tear you down, you build yourself so big that it does not faze you.
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