It can be hard to remember, and I always stress we cannot control others and the actions they take. We each have our own story and need to respect that we all act differently with the information that we end up with. This is acceptable and we know this and must balance this with what we want. Sometimes we think somebody owes us something or we deserve something from them, but this is not true. Do not worry about what you deserve and focus on what you want to happen and what you are appreciative for right now. You feel you deserve something, but the important thing is for you to show up for yourself each day. Show consistency towards the things you love and the things that need to feel loved in your life. You act the way that you WANT to and not the way you feel you MUST. Think of the desire you have for something or somebody to keep you going when things are tough. Think about the desire of getting yourself out of the mess and into the sun again. Think about the choices that will get you out of whatever is keeping you down. If you do not like your job, what are the things you would like to do? What are the things you will tolerate and the things that you cannot handle? You decide the expectation and objective of the job you want to find or career you want to follow. You have the power and not some other thing to throw the blame on. You must go through with what you want to get what you want, but it is much better I find and easier when you think you control the table. Stop thinking about some mythical external force and stay in victim mode. That may sound soothing, but it feels like a prison that becomes harder to get out of the longer you stay in it. Remember you control the table, so what do you want your table to look like? There are all sorts of different people everywhere, so the chances are that you can find somebody that is crazy like you who values the things you do. The odds are in your favor no matter what you think. Some of us do not like to decide and that is not something that will end up accepted. You must make a choice, and you can make the choice for yourself. If you make the wrong choice, then we accept that we did and we make a choice of what to do next. Ok I hate this job, but I feel I might like this job because it has the things I want. Then you go a different route. We do not need to feel stuck in the sand unable to move. We do not need to feel the fear of making the wrong decision, because then the next decision can be the right decision correcting any mistake made. The next decision can fix the previous one, but you must know what you want and cannot be scared to make the choice.