Saying All the Right Things

I can see the pain of the world in my everyday life, and it can make me sad. However, I experience a coldness that is not deserving of and wondering what is going on. I have seen a lack of empathy or really being aware of actions or consequences that are going on. Remember you need to be the change you want to see in the world. I do not want to see everyone holding hands, but I do not want to experience the bitterness in the remarks either. What I will have to understand is that it was a difficult day for some people. I must make sure not to internalize anything that is said. I am never one to jump in with the crowd. However, I can hear them mocking someone or the next big thing. I never liked to get put down, but I used to get myself dragged into all this stuff. To some people the gossip is everything in the world and having the power to control it means everything. For me, I know that what is important is only how you are viewing yourself and are you doing better today. Whenever someone says they want to be better you should ask them “in what way?” Then they will tell you WHAT THEY THINK about something, and you can get a good feel for someone in a deeper way. Being better is a vague term, so it is always good to get more detail. When someone is rude to you, should you be rude back? Many people go by the tit-for-tat rule, and it is a bold but assertive choice. I have felt judged by other people harshly as a push-over, people-pleaser. I have chosen to ignore, unless I am in danger. When you are in danger then you must do what you can to safely get out of there. Being strong is another vague term and you would have to get more information about each person. I am strong in the fact that I can think and try to solve a problem right away and I am able to help others try to see things from a different view. This has had both positive and negative effects. People do not like TO BE TOLD what to do but they want to feel listened too, understood, and if they ask for help you can help them. I am learning to butt out of other people’s stuff and focus only on my own things. When we involve ourselves unnecessarily in the drama around us, we are using energy on something that is not important for us. I just want to enjoy tasty food, have good experiences, and remember that I am one out of billions of people on this planet. Remember it is likely that someone has experienced exactly what you are going through. The odds are in favor of this with so many people. I need to be able to let make sure that I take care of myself. Sometimes we feel we are not deserving, but we always must push that feeling away and move on.