When we feel shame or we feel insecure about ourselves, we must remember that we are only human. We make mistakes, are imperfect and that is what makes us each unique. I have had to face my shame recently and it was an unpleasant experience. I am in my late thirties and do not have a driving license. When I have tried for 20 years over and over but have failed repeatedly. I am smart, funny, but unable to drive. For many years, this has made me feel different and isolated from other people. When I consider that most people drive, but for whatever reason I am not able too. I do think that driving is meant for certain people and not everyone will have that advantage or be able to drive. I have low hand-eye coordination, never really played many sports, and had cataract surgery before I was thirty. These things helped make it harder for me, but I always thought I could fight through it. As of now, I have not been able to fight through and accomplish my goal. I have learned to dealing with the shame I feel from it. My family/everyone around me keeps asking me when I am going to get it, and it feels like extra pressure put on me. It felt at time like I was letting everyone down, including myself and that hurt. Now, I am going to say to myself that it is ok if you get your drivers license. However, It does not make you any less human if you do not. No matter what anyone will say to you, you are a human being, and this will always be true. Thinking like this is has boosted my internal strength. I know that while I may struggle with certain things (driving), I am still strong at being funny, helping others, and being internally strong for myself. While,I am learning to acknowledging my weaknesses, but also being grateful for the strong qualities I posses. I used to take it out on myself and when I failed at something would scold myself. That will do nothing to help you in accomplishing goals. If anything, this type of action will detract from you accomplishing anything and you building a low self-esteem. I want the absolute best for myself and know that I deserve it, so why do am I kicking myself when I am down. I needed to be acknowledging the attempts and being proud of the steps I am taking to become a better person overall. Acknowledge the flaws but embrace and be proud of your strengths! I am grateful to have such insight into the battles my mental and physical self have had and to be able to become stronger like a brick wall for going through each battle and surviving. You do not need to be embarrassed for not being able to drive no matter how many people are able to master that skill. I should be happy I am able to have such insights into myself and be able to share my struggles with the world. It is ok to be different in the ways that you are. I am finally starting to become comfortable in my own unique ways.