Tough days mold the strength into you and will make you more resilient. Facing obstacles happens and nothing wrong with being ready for them. When you have people that are your so-called haters talking about you are doing their regular thing this is a good thing. A person does not have haters unless they are doing something right. It says more about the person doing the hating if you did not try to hurt them. Having haters is never a sad thing because it can bring out the best in you and your strengths. You will know when you have haters and what is going on. They will try to make you feel small in the situation and appear to be the more worthy person. That is just the sense of entitlement that can come from someone thinking they are the better person. Your hater can inspire you to be more aggressive, stay motivated to improve yourself, give you a stronger self-esteem. Now they are there to try to break you down but what if it makes you think about yourself. What if it makes you think about all the positive things you like about yourself that you were ignoring or downplaying. Then when you remember these things, you can think about the person you are and the person you want to be and feel good about yourself. Yes, I am a good painter, or I like to make others around me laugh. Then if you can think about this daily your brain will start to remember and associate good things with you. All you must do is remember and remind yourself about the good things you have. Sharing is a big part of success to me but the vulnerability that comes with it can be scary. Being vulnerable sucks and I said it, but it does make you a stronger person. Why is it when I feel bad people can avoid me? Because everyone is going through life, and it can be extreme for anyone to have to think about their problems without having to have more problems to deal with. There is only so much time in the day and we want to experience positive things, as well. People tend to do much better with positivity than negativity. Go out and be negative and see how many people you are spending time together with. Then go out and be positive and see what happens. You are far more likely to have good interactions and better experiences with people. Negative experiences can be discussed with family, friends, and close acquaintances, but even these conversations have their boundaries. Everyone has a protective bubble they like to be in at one time or another. The “safe space” where you are free to be completely yourself. Everyone needs that and its healthy to engage with that self daily. It is all about the priorities we have and what we are available for and what we let slip by. I used to be at war with myself but now I have a better understanding of myself and who I am. Who do you want to be?