It is good to feel needed in life, but it is also good not to feel used. What we need to have set are good boundaries that let us be free to handle the things we want. Being a people-pleaser will hurt you because then people will assume that is your nature. This can bury you with things you do not necessarily want. They also will take it for granted because they feel your help is a given to them. When you can set the limit of help you want to provide by saying no and doing what is best you for you at certain times this will stop you from burnout. I wanted to be able to help everyone and anyone. There is only so much each of us can do. We need to select the best way we can think of for helping others and do that. It can be extremely hard to say no the first time. It can be tough when it is coming from someone that is important to you. After that, it will get easier over time to say no to the requests that will not help you. Its not about cutting others out or being rude to people, but it is about understanding that our personal health comes first. Setting boundaries can help you relax and lead to you focusing on the next problem. In life there is always something someone is worried about and something that can improve. I have never met the perfect human being, and I do not ever expect to have that happen. It is nice when you can become a person of strength for others, because you have so much to give. What I want to do is understand what will make me the happiest person and what will make the person next to me the happiest person. It is not my responsibility to do this for another person, but I have the time and ability to help someone else. What is the best way to understand myself? That is different depending on each person. We all have separate ways of thinking, so the best way to understand ourselves is to understand how we think. I think once you can focus on that and reflect on your past experiences as lessons, not predictions. When you can understand the information that you have and can see why you make decisions the way you do, then you will a better understanding of yourself. Being able to accept yourself, does not mean you think everything you did was right. It means that you understand the good and terrible things about you and still can love yourself. This can be challenging with many people and can involve having multiple people trying to understand yourself. We are the best people for being able to understand ourselves because we can directly see and feel what happens to us. Sure, it can overblow, or we did not feel enough or in the correct way, but we still felt the feelings. When we can connect with ourselves it will make us better at connecting with others.