What are some of the things we want to see in ourselves and look for in the people around us? Do we want someone who is honest, loyal, respectful. Do we want someone that has something we want or something we wish we had? I looked around online and was disappointed when I read a reason that you may not have friends is you have nothing anybody else would want. You have no social currency, status, you are out of the loop, so unimportant. When we want someone loyal, does that mean we want someone we can manipulate to do what they want? No, it means I want someone I can depend on and that will show up. When I cannot get respect from others, I can always give it to myself. There is nothing wrong if you end up getting disrespected. The issue is always with the person who is disrespecting you. One thing that sucks is you will never be able to reach everyone or get everyone to ever be on your side. There will always be people against you and that is ok. We all go through similar events, but the way they affect us, and our lives are quite different. For me, I got into trouble with other people in school and later at work. What did I do? At first, I blamed myself and thought why was it happening to me or why was so and so causing this? Then I realized that you are responsible for the way you act, so try to look at your behaviour and see if you did anything to cause the situation to happen. If from your viewpoint, it was the other person being the aggressor towards you then just try to brush it off and understand that person is more damaged than you are. You can be the stronger one and do the right thing. You do not have to fight, but you can be smart. Try to distance yourself as much as possible from the bullies or try to minimize the effect the bullying is having on you. Speak up with the bullies if it is getting too intense and if you are not able to come to any resolution, get help. Never ever be ashamed for taking the action that you feel is the right one. If someone has any problems with that, it is their issue. If you are doing right by you and not trying to start fights with anyone, you should be good. There are people out there that will do terrible things. That can be a tough pill to swallow. As much as I want to help everyone I come across, I must understand this fact. We will all make the wrong choices at some point or another. If we never lose ourselves, we are winners. Always remember that even as one person, you can make a substantial difference each day. We now live in a world that interacts globally. One person has the power to change lives. There is a world that needs saving and people out there that want to help. You can always show that you are a great person in the world every day. What will you do?