Taking it easy is remembering you have the spirit to enjoy things as well as put in challenging work for them. The ability to be able to see the good strides you are making and the rewards you should be giving yourself along the way. It has helped me stay focus because it gives me another thing to look forward to. Remember it is a balance, so you want the work and the relaxation to equal out. That is why people may ask about the life/work balance of a company when interviewing. To me it is a basic need to make sure you give yourself good things, because life can be tough in diverse ways, we need breaks to make it through the grind, you do not have to break yourself to be at your best. Remember we should be trying to work on doing what we would love to be doing (no matter how crazy), and we need to be offering ourselves rewards for our hard work along the way. Build the connection with yourself and others that you may have only dreamed of. It is possible to get what you want and not have to worry about the person next to you doing anything about it. Remember people think they can replace you, but can you replace an original and only copy? Again, depending on the life experiences the person has had you will get the appropriate answer. Use your judgement to understand what is right for you and give the rest the boot. Think about the way a decision will help you and if you really want to do it. If it will help you and you do not want to do it, then it could still be worth trying. However, if you do not want to do it and it will not help you no point in wasting your time at it. We always think about limiting the bad to make way for the good by controlling things that we want. What if we just focus on the good, we want to do and if terrible things happen then they happen? Worry about the future you want to have but investigate it by discovering what your things you like about the world. Remember you can ignore the bad and just follow where your heart is taking you. You would be building a foundation on the things you love, the things you want to know more about, the goals you want to accomplish. You leave the terrible things on the sidelines which is what you want anyway. They do not matter and can become the background noise for you as you carve your name in the world. You can use love even in this world to conquer and enjoy the things you want. It may not seem that way and never about very much, but it is one of those things you can do. There is nothing wrong with spreading kindness, the ability to grow into who you want, wanting the best to happen.