It can feel tough when we feel undermined or disrespected, but it is ok. You can impose boundaries, but when they crossed then we need to remove ourselves complete from the situation. When you feel like you are in a tough spot and there is no right answer you see in place we must come through and make the right decision. Sometimes we can get ourselves into trouble and must come up to the plate. Sometimes we need to be more vocal about the things we want and do not want and other times we are tested on our silence to see if we can keep our mouths shut. Both are challenging in separate ways. When you are shy, timid, afraid to speak up then this can be a challenge. You will get to a point where somebody will test you and you will see for yourself the line that you accept. Then you would be to gauge your anger in the future and try to control it if you want. Anger is healthy, but for me I tend to let it control everything. It kicks me up too many notches, so I must reel myself back in by controlling it. When we are tested on our silence is when usually we want to speak up the most. We want to say something, anything, but we must be quiet and wait for the right time. All of this can be exhausting, but I have felt myself on both sides of this and this was what I experienced. People use all these words they may through out at you “toughness, arrogant, disrespectful” but you must challenge these notions to see if they are true. If enough interactions involving this stuff comes into play, then you will have to be ready to look at everything. People can challenge and will challenge you. Now this could be a positive challenge or a negative challenge, but the point is the time is going to happen. You may be ready, and you may not be ready but that does not matter. It is always about the reaction and not necessarily about succeeding or failing. It is about how did I do not do I pass or fail? You want to know more about how you behaved in the situation. There will always be another challenge until we are gone. The challenge could be about anything but again it is more about your reaction then the challenge. Poking the bear is a fun thing to do. Pushing the button that has big bright letters stating, “DON’T PUSH.” We must see how strong you are. We need that information and we will get it. The first time we meet you is when everything happens. It is the big night and if it is bad, it feels remembered for eternity. Knowing this, we can always get through the things bothering us. You have no idea the places people may push you to go, but you do have all the control over how you react. You will be going on this adventure, but you can always leave it, or it will always end.